Remember Erik Erikson from Psych 101? Yeah, you remember his name because it is funny. Who names their child “Erik” when their last name is “Erikson”? Anyway, he’s the guy who came up with some handy psychosocial stages of development. My son is 8 years old so he fits smack in the middle of the Industry (competence) vs. Inferiority stage. While both of these characteristics will take root (we all have BOTH) during this stage of his development, I’m hoping to help shepherd a big win in the competence department.
As his parent and contextual guide I can help set up some situations in which he can start to realize his own competence. I will do this in partnership with his nature and preferences. He expressed interest in learning how to cook. This is a child who doesn’t have many diverse foods on his love list. We decided to start with cooking an omelette. He thought about what he would like to put in his omelette – parmesan cheese. We used a solid block of parmesan so he could grate it into the omelette. I learned a thing or two about gourmet cooking when I lived in San Francisco so even though I don’t do a whole lot of it – I really appreciate it.
Would this whole thing have been easier if I just did it myself? You bet. But now I have an 8 year old boy who had the biggest grin on his face as he ate the omelette that he made himself! And we can chalk this one up on the “competence” list!