I’ve heard about how difficult it can be for children to transition from one space or activity to another. I’ve also observed this challenge more times than I can count. The tough part is that our mornings are full of transitions! What’s that you say, your children gracefully get out of bed, get dressed, go to the breakfast table, and then put on shoes to leave the house without any emotional fallout? You don’t have to “push” them to the next task? You have time to dress yourself and feed yourself breakfast without yelling to someone in another room that they need to be doing the same? Oh, you have no problem getting up 30 minutes before the kids so that you are ready and emotionally present to shepherd them through their morning transitions? OK, fine, you write this blog post because I haven’t figured it out yet.
While things have gotten better with Adam Levine and lemon juice…our mornings still fall apart right around the time we are trying to get shoes on and walk through the threshold of our front door into the big, wide world. I imagine there is a dragon sleeping at my front door. When we approach the door, suddenly the dragon wakes up and she is feeling rushed and freaking out! First, smoke comes out of my ears, then fire comes out of my mouth. The dragon is inside of me.
My kids and I have some sort of wacky feedback loop in which I begin to get anxious because I know they are going to lose it while getting their backpacks on their backs and their shoes on their feet. Mind you, these tasks are simple physically for them, but emotionally challenging. At the same time as my dragon awakens, my kids are responding to me with their own anxiety about leaving our warm home where we have lots of our own space and the illusion of control – transitioning – to the outside world where anything could happen! Sure, the outside world is great because their friends will be there, learning opportunities abound, and nature is awesome – heck, we even have a nice time in the car listening to audio stories on the way to school. But something about that dragon at the door gets us every day! To illustrate, Oren volunteered to show his dragon pose, which comes from Yin Yoga. Ironically, dragon pose has a very calming effect.