When my daughter was born our pediatrician offered some helpful advice about our older child, my son. She said his transition from being an “only child” to becoming a sibling would be eased if he knew he could count on his bedtime being sacred time with me. Throughout the day he would have to share me with his new sister sometimes and not other times, but his special times with just me would mostly be random. However, bedtime would be a time he could count on every night. We already had a bedtime routine so this was something that could remain the same for him – frozen in time – even though everything about the rest of his world was changing.
Now we have two elementary schoolers so our schedule is pretty fixed. Of course, there are always unexpected (and expected) interruptions in the routine – family and friends visit, snow days, sick days – but we still keep bedtime sacred for both children. One way that Yaara likes to utilize her special one-on-one parent time at bedtime is to do gentle yoga together. It is so healthy for both parents and children – doing it together feels amazing!